Life's unexpected turns

It sometimes doesn't occur to you to appreciate your family until it hits you the hardest. =(

I'm not gonna say "I know how you feel...I understand" coz I can't say I know what you're going through. I can only feel for you.

I'm not gonna say "Take it in your stride" coz it's an impact that hits so hard it impossible to swallow the truth. I can only tell you that I'll be here when you need to break down.

I'm not gonna say "You're gonna be ok" coz I know it's never gonna be ok for a long time and it's still too raw to see the future. I can only advise you on your next few realistic steps since you have the right to not be clear headed now.

I'm not gonna say "You can't break down in front of your family coz they need you now". I can only say THIS is your family. It's ok to break down, it's only human. Don't keep it in coz you'll only fall apart. But in the end, know that you're gonna be strong for them too.

Sometimes I feel that the standard condolences are kinda bullshit coz it doesn't help much and it doesn't make much sense to me. If it happened to me, and someone says all these to me...I'll most prob swear and exclaim that of coz it's ok...it's not your loved ones.

That's why I didn't say much. I just let him cry it out to me. There's nothing much for a friend to say coz it's a path they have to walk themselves.

I can only say I will be here whenever you need as much as I possibly can coz you've been there for me too.

That's what friends are for.